Baby's Here! Who Does What?

"I’m giving copies to all the new parents and parents-to-be I know."
Deidre Sanders, Agony Aunt for The Sun

"Having a baby can put tremendous pressure on a relationship which is why Duncan Fisher’s book is so important. It’s great to be reminded that parenthood isn’t just about mothering, and that men and women are a team."
Bel Mooney, Agony Aunt of The Daily Mail

"This is a funny, rueful, practical and supportive guide that will make both parents feel more comfortable in their new roles".
Lesley Garner, Agony Aunt of The Daily Telegraph

Who earns the money? Who looks after the baby? Who cleans the kitchen? And how do we cope with all of this without sleep and without falling out with each other?

Having a baby is often said to bring couples closer - and sometimes it does. But in two out of three families it makes the parents' relationships worse. And what do parent argue about most? Answer: "who does what"!

Duncan Fisher suggests a new way of looking at parenting, with no automatic assumptions about who earns and who looks after baby.

Find out how mothers can feel more confident, less stressed and enjoy their babies more, as well as enjoying other parts of their lives. And see how fathers can earn enough while staying central to their babies' lives.

Find out why taking care of your own relationship isn't selfish, but is one of the most important ways parents can take care of their children. And discover that the so-called 'traditional' mother-and-father roles are a recent invention: in the 200,000 years of human history mothers have almost never looked after children on their own.

Couples who share the earning and caring more equally are more likely to stay together - and to have more sex!

Duncan Fisher directs the Kids in the Middle campaign, backed by 30 national charities and 25 Agony Aunts from national newspapers and magazines. He was a founder and CEO of The Fatherhood Institute and served for some years on the Board of the Equal Opportunities Commission. He received an OBE for his work with children in 2009.


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